Archive for September, 2009

When my daughter’s BFF sent me a Facebook suggesstion that I add her mother as my friend, the invite said that she recently became friends with her own mother and thought I might know her too. I thought how true that was – Mothers do not automatically reach the point of friendship with their grown daughters.
It is a relationship we have to cultivate like many others. Problem is… the relationship comes already burdened with habits and expectations of the past. Unlike newly established friendships , within the mother-daughter friendship linger trigger points accumulated over the years. To really be friends, both mom and daughter(s) need to let go of some of the accumulated resentment, hidden anger or disappointment.
I am honored to be considered among the friends of my daughters but I realize that deep down, I will always be their mom. That colors everything and I wouldn’t have it any other way.


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